What do you care about? What’s the core of your life?
For me it’s relationships, for others I’ve noticed it can be food, music, sometimes it’ll be work but that’s rarely actually the case.
Your core part of you is what your mind drifts to thinking about when you are idle. It’s what you remember well, it’s what matters to you. It’s what provides greater than normal satisfaction, but sometimes also greater than usual stress.
It can sometimes be hard to know what your core is without being able to compare with others and realising they don’t weight those parts of their life nearly as much as you do.
Your core is likely linked to how you show your love to people. Do you want to hug them or cook for them? Do you go out to a music venue or play some yourself?
As a note. If people seem addicted to computer games, work, sex or something like that it’s a problem in their environment, likely related to what their core is, or often is just financial troubles. Whilst they might be thinking about their addiction a lot, that’s not what their core is. The same often goes for work. You might spend a lot of time thinking about it and it might be a grerat source of both satisfaction and stress, but that doesn’t mean it’s your core.
For me, my core is about relationships. My last girlfriend also had it as her core, but my ex before, was mainly about food. She could rattle off the dinners we had over the last week or so and couldn’t understand how I didn’t remember them, where as I remembered the people we’d met and conversations we’d had.
Turns out, Elon Musk has relationships at his core. In the RollingStone Magazine article he talks about not having passion in life if he isn’t in a relationship.
“If I’m not in love, if I’m not with a long-term companion, I cannot be happy.” — Elon Musk (in RollingStone)
That said I don’t think everyone has a single prominent core that you can easily perceive, or like with most people, it might take a while to discover.
What do you think your core is?